Blog – Katie Cakes BakeShop

Enter your Email Below for the FREE 14 Day ‘QuickRise CAKES’ Program!

the BAKESHOP® Woman

theBAKESHOP® Woman

In the current time, when women’s empowerment is forging ahead with a voice louder than ever before, it is almost a given that a “fitness” brand, which unapologetically celebrates one of the most sexualized assets of the female body, is at major risk of falling on the wrong side of history. And trust me, as the founder of this brand, the fine line between women’s empowerment and female degradation is not lost on me.
This has always been a factor in the forefront of every post, message and product we deliver. Because of this fine line and the very specific climate right now, it is more important than ever to show just who the BAKESHOP® woman is.

 “Our perceived greatest weakness may actually be our greatest asset.”

– Katie ‘CAKES’ Wildhagen

The woman of today, fueled by the #metoo movement, may feel that even the slightest sexualization of herself and her sisters, is unacceptable and therefore has no place. But at the BAKESHOP®, a place where we celebrate the woman Mind, Booty, and Soul, sexualization is our choice. It is more important than ever to uphold everything that is beautiful and sacred about being female. And for some of us, that’s rejoicing in our sexuality. At the very heart of the women’s movement is the right to be our own voice, to be treated as equals, and never be treated less-than. And by no means, should a female be subjected to certain behaviors because she chooses to celebrate herself, in all aspects.

The BAKESHOP™ woman is one that strives to be her best self, inside and out. She’s one that knows the importance of emotional, spiritual and physical well-being. She understands that of course there is more to what makes her special than just her cakes, but she doesn’t deny that feeling good and looking sexy is important to her as well.
The BAKESHOP® woman lives to grow and continues to evolve. And she understands that in uplifting other women, she uplifts herself.

The BAKESHOP® woman isn’t perfect. She allows herself the room to get it wrong, so she has the opportunity to get it right. She has days where her confidence soars, and she has days where it falters. But she forgives herself for her “weaker” moments, as she knows she’ll come through them stronger than before.

The BAKESHOP® woman knows there is beauty in the balance of soft and strong, (in cakes and character!) She knows that intelligence is sexy. And she values her spiritual growth like she values her booty growth. She’s forever improving!
She doesn’t take herself or others too seriously. But she couldn’t be more serious about what she’s convicted in. She fights for her rights, and knows that when she uplifts others she’s uplifting herself.

The BAKESHOP® woman doesn’t really fit a mold. She’s continually reshaping and up-leveling. She earns her growth at each level, only staying long enough to appreciate where she’s been and respect where she’s going.

And funny enough, she thinks that once accepted old adage of “A woman’s place is in the kitchen,” is cute! Because you’ll definitely find her in the “kitchen” …. BAKING THOSE CAKES!



“Making the World Sweeter, One Booty at a Time!”




How it can make you more attractive, and possibly help that booty sit higher!

Mind.Booty.Soul…. the foundational layers of the BAKESHOP.

As cute and fun as it is… there’s a reason why we promote working on all three aspects of SELF. It’s like a perfect triangle. Each side holds the other up, one flowing into the other. They’re intertwined and connected. Each aspect alone is ok, and totally necessary. But when combined the result is an incredibly unique, beautiful, and unstoppable self that shines from the inside out!

So here at the BAKESHOP we talk a lot about that  middle aspect, the BOOTY. But let’s take a moment to talk on a subject that actually gets into both the MIND and SOUL layers of this cake.


I first heard about meditating years ago. It was when I moved to California that I started hearing more about it as a “normal” thing. Up until that point, the only thing I knew about it was that you had to be quiet, you weren’t supposed to think, you had to sit in that weird posture with one foot crossed over the other, and you were supposed to hold your hands and fingers in a certain way.

All this seemed so extra to me. Safe to say, it was awhile before I began to put a mediation practice into my daily routine.

As I continued on my path of self-growth…. and long after I tattooed “EVOLVING” on my neck… I started to find my own way to meditation. Step by step I was led to it in a way I could comprehend and not feel too “weird” about. I’m sure my path into, and understanding of meditation is a bit casual and less technical than what it “should” be maybe. And I’m sure some very hardcore spiritual practitioners would gasp at what I’m about to say here… but, I realized that as all of the specifics and “rules” to meditation are helpful and probably make it a lot easier, all of that is not totally necessary. All that is necessary is dedication to consistency and the patience to be able to keep coming back so that you can find your way to mental stillness. Because in that stillness is where the magic happens. (We’ll get back to all the amazing benefits of a meditation practice here in a moment!)

Once I started my own meditation practice though, thanks to a few resources that I’ll list later, I came to realize that I had actually been “meditating” all of my life. I just wasn’t calling it that, and I wasn’t doing it in the traditional sense.

I’m a big time daydreamer. And always have been. I’d be sitting in class, physically there but mentally off in some place I’d created in my mind. And most of it was me visualizing my future. I’d come up with different life experiences and situations that I wanted to actually live. I’d create a story in my mind, and live in there.. and I’d continue to come back to it day to day.  These day dreams literally made up my future. And I still do it!

But now, I realize that visualizing, or “daydreaming,” is actually a form of meditation. And that I’ve been meditating all along!

So, if you find yourself off daydreaming often, than congrats! You’re already meditating! Yay!

Ok, but I want to talk beyond visualization. I want to talk about how all the answers we’re ever going to need are already within us, and the way to get to those answers quicker and hear them more clearly is through meditation.

So I don’t know if you agree, but life can be a real bitch. And trying to figure out how to act, what to do, who to talk to, what to say, where to go, and how to live… all of it. It can get real messy, and really complicated.

But it doesn’t have to be.

When we meditate we get to the inner most piece of our SELF, where the truest, most authentic piece of us lives. This SELF has all the answers. This SELF is the one that knows the right way to go. It’s the SELF that knows who to talk to, and what to say. This SELF, if heard, will lead you to YOUR best life!

But in our crazy lives, with the countless distractions thrown our way on a daily basis, that authentic SELF, the one that truly has ALL of the answers, it gets drowned out.

And at that point.. man… good luck trying to get to it then. It’s a lost cause.

You’re just left to fend for yourself, trying to keep your head above the water, with all kinds of things trying to pull you under.

Meditating is like your rescue boat in that moment. Something for you to hold onto, get into, and get away from all the drama and distractions.

When we meditate answers come through loud and clear. Our path is lit up. We miraculously know what our next step should be, we know what to do and how to do it.

Seriously. Try it. Next time you find yourself troubled about a situation, whether it be within a relationship or worked related… take about 10 min aside and meditate. Then come back to the unsettling situation and see how you react to it then.

It’s in this way that meditating can make you more attractive! Because think about it, how attractive is the person who’s flying off the handle over some little issue? Or the person who jumps to all kinds of conclusions, blaming and pointing fingers?! The friend who gets jealous over other friendships.. The co-worker that’s always complaining, but does nothing toward a solution…Or the girlfriend that’s accusing her man of all kinds of shady shit because she’s got some insecurities around relationships and trust…?!

I mean the list could go on of all the unattractive ways we carry ourselves when we’re not stopping to check in.

You feel me?!

So, this is why I speak about meditation as such a key aspect in the pursuit of becoming or best and most beautiful selves. It’s through meditative practices that we can truly find our beauty within, and always lead with that.

It’s pretty incredible having a spiritual practice in place. I know for a lot of us, we grew up practicing some kind of religion. And through prayer, you get to your most authentic SELF as well. But if you’re like me, I wasn’t digging my religion when I was younger. So I sought out other paths to find my spiritual practice.

My first understanding of this came when I read the book, “The Seat of the Soul,” by Gary Zukav. You can find this on Amazon, or any other major bookstore. 

This was my first introduction into understanding what my truest, most authentic SELF was, and how to access it.

Another great book, that I’ve read more recently, and am re-reading it for the third time is “The Untethered Soul,” by Michael A. Singer. Click here to find this one! 

Both of these books were transformational for me. They were easy to understand and comprehend, and at the time weren’t to mystical or “weird” for me to grasp.

After reading these books I slowly began to get why meditating would be beneficial. But I still had no understanding of how it was supposed to work or how to do it right.

Countless unsuccessful attempts at sitting in silence passed before I found something that worked! You see, my brain can run a mile a min, and jump from a few hundred different thoughts seemingly in seconds! Sitting quietly wasn’t really my jam.

But when I came across this app called “Headspace,” I was totally changed! This dude’s voice was easy to listen to and get lost in. And again, it wasn’t some “weird” thing that I couldn’t get my head around. This guy has a nice british accent, is very chill and relaxed… and just easy. So, I signed up for the full app and started in on my first 30 days of meditation! You’ll want to look them up and download the app!

I haven’t looked back since!

From there I went on to use resources like the meditations from Oprah and Deepak Chopra. Go to the website at to find those. 

I also follow the daily meditations in the book from “A Course in Miracles.” You can look up the book by searching that title.

And now I actually go to meditation classes here in Los Angeles. (Yes, I really do. Lol)
My favorite spot is called UNPLUG here in Santa Monica, CA. You can find them online at

And my other go-to spot for some really dope yoga, lectures, and meditation is called Tantris Yoga, located in Beverly Hills. You can look them up online here!  (And your first class is free when you sign-up online!)

You see, you don’t have to do this alone. We now live in a time where booty’s AND meditation are popular! Yay! Lol

So, find what works for you, and get started! Your most authentic, most evolved SELF is already thanking you! (You just can’t hear it yet!)

Ohhhh!!! Wait!!!! You wanna know how meditating might actually help you lift that booty, right?!?!

VISUALIZATION! Visualization my friend!

Visualize that booty growing bigger and juicier, and sitting higher and higher!



~Katie Cakes

What Keeps Us Coming Back…

The Real Reason We WorkoutIMG_1341

So why do we workout? What is it that keeps us coming back? Is it really just about the booty? Or, is there more to it? Something more that we tap into when the initial fun of exercise has worn off?

I know for me, as much as I love baking these cakes, the real draw for me is what it does for my emotional, mental, and spiritual health.

Working out, that physical movement of energy in the body, carries so many psychological and emotional benefits.

Physical movement, of all kinds, has this same effect.

Think about the last time you ran down the street after your kids, or went out dancing all night, or even that feeling of bliss during that impromptu morning dance party in the kitchen! Or… well you know…when you’re sharing that cake with your lover. (Yes, that counts!)

So think about that…we’re meant to move. Our bodies are meant to move and be physical! They’re meant to run, jump, and play! To laugh, dance and groove! We all have our own innate ways we naturally want to move. Some of us gravitate to rhythm, like dancing. Some of us gravitate to the flow, like yoga. Some of us gravitate to agility and quickness, within sports like soccer and basketball. And some of us gravitate to power movements, like the explosiveness in sprinting, or in movement patterns in the gym during our workouts.

It’s really all about what we gravitate to, and what we enjoy.

I know that I’ve always gravitated to explosive movement. The wind up and power explosion through the hips while hitting a softball, that’s what I grew up doing. So naturally, when I stopped playing sports, I gravitated to force driven movements like deadlfits and kettle bell swings. Theres’ something very visceral about loading energy through the largest muscle in the body, (the CAKES!) and then driving that energy through the hips to release it. It’s very powerful. After a workout like that, I feel like I can go accomplish anything!

There’s two sides to my love of this type of movement for exercise:

One, power driven movements recruit a lot of muscles fibers. That explosive use of energy in the fibers creates micro tears in the muscle, that when they repair, they repair stronger and tighter. This, spread out over the full muscle, creates a nice high and tight booty! Yup! That explosive power is what lifts and shapes those cakes!

But then, what’s even more exciting about this type of explosive movement, is what it can do for the psyche. Have you ever just wanted to PUNCH something when you’re upset or angry?! Yes! That’s your body wanting to physically release emotional and mental energy. It’s an actual physical outlet for that distress. That’s what our body does.

So for me, through my formative years in college and just after, when I was trying to create a life as an adult, I consistently took to the gym let out some of that frustration and confusion. It was my life saver. Whenever I didn’t have the answer for life at the moment, and I would start beating myself up for not doing more or doing better, I would get to the gym to work that out.

THIS is why we really workout. This is the feeling that keeps us coming back. The benefits beyond the physical is what really taps into our want and need to workout.

So this is what I fall back on when I just mentally don’t want to workout, or when I know I’m dragging physically. I find that thing that I can tap into, that goes beyond the physical. I’ll get on the treadmill and run, with my favorite music on, getting into the beat and the flow of that song. Or I’ll grab a kettle bell and let all my frustrations and anxiety go through swings. Or I’ll get on the rower, close my eyes, and use that rhythm, to get into a visualization about whatever it is that I’m wanting to accomplish in life.

This is how I’ve kept going with my workouts when I’ve just wanted to walk away from it altogether. This is what has kept me interested in my physical well-being, when I could care less in the moment about my physical appearance. I’ve tapped into the thing beyond the physical. I’ve dug down deep into the mental and emotional benefits of exercise and movement. And that’s how I’ve kept it a consistent part of my life over the past 15 years.

Just like anything else, for a lot of us at least, there has to be some other incentive for us to continue something when that initial excitement wears off.

So, when baking the cakes has lost its luster, remember the greater benefits. Remember the high that movement gives you. Remember that powerful feeling of accomplishment. Remember how you feel when you finish a workout… like you can take on the world! Remember how strong you feel moving that weight and pushing that energy through your body.

Take note of those feelings. Those are what will keep you after your goals.

And just remember, we’re all individuals. Find that type of movement that you love. The movement that no matter what, puts a smile on your face and lights you up from within. So when you’ve found yourself in an exercise rut, THAT’S the movement you go back to.That’s your “happy workout” place. Go there first. Get your mental state back on track, start feeling that euphoria of movement again…. and that will get you where you need to go!

Happy Baking!


Katie Cakes

Choose Your Own Adventure


This life is exactly what we make of it. Each day, each new morning, each MOMENT we have CHOICE.
Where we go, what we’ll do, who we’ll BE and become…. it’s all our choice.
What will you make of this life? What legacy will you leave? How will you be remembered? How will you impact others?

Sometimes we think that to make changes in our life we have to make big leaping changes. A grande gesture to our goals and dreams… a complete shift from the life we’re living now to the one we want to live.

But changing doesn’t take magic or luck. It takes ONE STEP AT A TIME.
You’ve heard it over and over by now… “You make changes by taking small, consistent steps everyday in the direction of your goal.”

So, if we’re going to make a change, first thing me must know is WHAT CHANGE WE WANT TO MAKE.
You’ve got to know where you’re going to get there. Then, you work backwards from there.
To get to that bigger goal, what are the small steps you need to take. Break it down by month, by week, by day. So that each day you’re doing something that will lead you in that direction. Then just trust the process and the actions you’re taking. You will make that change. You will reach that goal.

This is what is so juicy about life. Each and everyday you can decide to make a change. Whether it be a small change like deciding you’re going to smile at the people you pass on the street that day. Or a big change, like deciding you’re going to take action to change your career path. It’s all up to you.
And in every instant you have the choice to do better, do more, BE more! If you’ve found yourself losing the zest for life, well… it’s up to you to spark it right back up! Set a goal, and go for it! Start working those “goal crushing” muscles! There’s no better way to show yourself you can do it, than by actually DOING IT!
You can’t wait around for someone else to come in and change your life. It’s all up to you. When you identify the change you want to make, and start taking ACTION in that direction, THEN people come into your path to help you along! You’re doing the work, you’ve started the momentum, and then you’ll find that the people you need to know, to work with and collaborate with are perfectly placed in front of you exactly when you need them.

We all have one super power, (yes, other than our CAKES!) We all have the ability to choose. CHOICE is our super power! You don’t like something? Change it. You want to do something different with your life? Change it. You don’t like what you wake up to every morning? Change it.
But you’re thinking “what about those things, people, places, whatever … that I can’t change?” Then change your MINDSET. That’s your super power. You can change the way you see something! The magic is in perspective. You’ve got to change your perspective.

The ability to choose our own adventure in every second, every minute of every day is an incredibly cool thing! DO NOT WASTE THIS ABILITY! Test it out. Play with it! Next time you’re headed to Starbucks for your “usual”, and you walk past that smaller, less commercial coffee shop, that looks really quaint, but whose coffee you’re kinda confused by because it’s “pour over” and it takes so long to make one cup…. in that moment, just say “eff it!” and stop in there instead! See what all the hype is about. Check it out. Change your routine. Or… why not reach out to that person who you’ve been wanting to ask to mentor you?! What’re you waiting for?! Seriously…. you can do that! It’s your choice.
Use your “choice” muscle.
It’s incredibly satisfying and is sure to send you on an adventure!




Uplift Her to Uplift Yourself

Have you ever seen another woman sitting in a coffee shop, on the train, walking down the street, running on the treadmill next to you, all over Instagram….(eye roll,) who’s beautiful, classy, fashionable, and everything about her exudes beauty… 

And you just feel this SUCKER PUNCH to the gut!?!

Lol! But for real.. It hits that place deep down inside that you don’t really want anyone to know you have?!! … that place you hold contempt, and jealousy, and hate, and disregard … that place that holds all those “Fuck You” ‘s! Haha!

Yeah. That place. You ever felt that?!

It’s ok to admit that you have. I know I have. Whatever.

It’s a really shitty feeling. It takes a hold of us and sends us down that spiral of self-hatred and self-loathing. It’s that road paved with insecurities that leads us straight into the pit of low-self esteem. That dark place void of confidence. Void of beauty. Void of grace.

How ironic and fucked up is that?! Seeing a woman, who we perceive to hold all of these traits of beauty and confidence and grace… sends us to a place in our minds where we are completely void of all those same characteristics that we long for.

In one instance, with one flash of ass, legs, and beautiful full hair… we trip and fall over that edge into this place of complete despair.

How the F*CK did that happen??!!!

Well, this is what happens when we put our worth in the material things like, looks, clothes, cars, bags, accessories, trips, men…. 

We set ourselves up for jealousy and failure… failure as women.

So let’s take a look at this. How can we change this? How can we find peace within ourselves so that when we see that woman, we feel like we want to give her that wink of solidarity, like “Yes, woman, I feel you!” … rather than wanting to hate on her for being so damn pretty?!?! (Who’s the crazy one now, right?! You are. Yes, definitely you. Lol!)

Consider this idea: “Whatever we are not giving, we are withholding.”

Meaning, that if we are not giving, or if we are withholding something from someone else, we too are then actually withholding that from our own selves.

So if this is to be true, this would mean that every time we look at a woman with contempt and jealousy, i.e. withholding her beauty, then we are in that same moment withholding our own beauty as well. We in turn actually become the ugly ones.

Instead of applauding her for her beauty and grace, we try and pick out what’s wrong with her.

But in robbing her of her beauty, we are robbing ourselves as well.

You can see how this all shapes up to be one ugly situation.

And, to complicate things even further… it’s like the whole “chicken or the egg” thing.

Our insecurities are driving our jealousy. And our jealousy is driving our actions of putting another woman down, which in turn, as we just learned, puts our own selves down, which then feeds our insecurities.

It’s like a vicious cycle.

So… the solution here is swift shift in perspective.

It’s like we gotta throw a cog in the wheel to make it stop!

It’s actually very easy.

First, we must find a DIFFERENT place in ourselves to hold these feelings for women. A place of love, rather than fear and insecurity. We must make a new space, so that when we see a woman like this, we can take those shitty feelings, put them in this new space, and let that marinate. Let them transform from ugly and mean, to complimentary and beautiful.

This is going to sound crazy to some…. but what you must do is, you must “bless” her beauty. Yup, Like you would a sneeze. Lol.

“Bless you”… “I bless your beauty.”  (It’s really not to be said out loud. You don’t want people to think you’re actually crazy. Lol)

And then, turn that to yourself, and bless your own beauty. 

Remember, what you withhold from someone else, you withhold from yourself.

And, inversely, what you give someone else, you give yourself.

You can be beautiful, too.

Now, do you see how this situation is already turning from ugly to beautiful?

So as crazy as this may seem to be, it really works. You’ll feel lighter and more free. More beautiful. You see, those shitty feelings you would’ve been carrying, they’re really heavy. That shit weighs you down… it’ll have you feeling all funky and frumpy and heavy and shit.

But, now since you’ve replaced those with the lighter more beautiful feelings, you’re going to feel lighter. You’ll feel like a woman of beauty and grace…

See how that works?!

That’s the first step. That’s the easy one. That’s the sweet little trick.

But don’t lose that. That must become second nature.

Because after that, you’re going to have to dig a little deeper so that those feelings will stick. We must now dive into a bigger shift in perspective. We’ve got to get to the root of why you feel like this woman has something on you because she’s beautiful. Why can’t she be beautiful?! What’s that got to do with you?!

Well, I believe because we’ve been societally pressured to see other women as competition…for men, for attention, etc., we then are always stuck in that place of lack.  Like, if she has it, I must not.

This is universally NOT TRUE.

So, here, I ask you to shift your thoughts from those of lack, to those of abundance. Her beauty does not take away from yours, as yours does not hers. Another woman’s beauty does not take anything away from you.  It doesn’t keep you from anything. And it doesn’t somehow block you from your potential and greatness.

We have to understand that everything that is meant for us will come to us. 

So ladies, if that man wants to be with another woman, then he wasn’t meant for you girl! And you better hurry up and let that man go, because your man is waiting!


Or if that woman got that job and you didn’t… well it just wasn’t meant for you. You feel me?!

So, trust this. Trust that you, and every other woman on this planet can be just as beautiful as you and they want to be. And each and everyone of us can have all that our true spirit and heart desires.

This brings me to this final point.

You, woman, have something that NO OTHER WOMAN possesses. You, woman, have YOU.

You are uniquely you. And no other woman in this universe has what you have. There is no other woman, at any corner of this planet that can offer what you have to offer.

So baby, you better get out there and let your light shine. You better let your beauty radiate! And you better let another woman do the same. In letting her do the same, you are allowing yourself that as well.

Get out there ladies. Compliment each other. Smile at each other. Silently bless each other.

We are ONE HALF this human population. And if there’s one thing we can say, we are INTENSELY more beautiful than the other half! Lol.

So let’s start lifting each other up, rather than tearing each other down.

Let’s make this world a universally more beautiful place!

1 2